Your friends may feel they want to give you something anyway
and you can indeed register for gifts like for your first wedding.
You may want to specify themes like art, linen or any
other area you may have a need.

2. The same etiquette applies to a bridal shower for
second weddings. A great idea for a second
wedding shower is to ask for items to stock the liquor cabinet
like glasses, ice buckets, shakers or a favorite bottle of
liquor which you can all enjoy together at some later date!

3. Next we will look at the correct etiquette on the cost
of a second wedding. You should not ask your
parents to pay for the wedding since they presumably already
paid for your first wedding. If they offer to help out it is okay
to accept.

You and your partner should discuss all the expenses in detail
and determine who will pay for what. Another way to do this
is to split all the expenses and pay equal amounts since you
are both getting married. I find the Wedding Cost Estimator
quite helpful.

Hopefully these rules on etiquette for second weddings helped to clarify some issues for you. You can read more about second wedding etiquette here.

Ideas For Wedding Dresses For A Second Marriage

June 12, 2009 by Francina · Leave a Comment 

Used to be that it was frowned upon if a bride wore white or a traditional wedding dress when getting married a second time. Not so anymore. You will certainly hear various opinions on which way to go with second wedding gowns. Use your own discretion and find out what the correct etiquette is for wedding dresses for a second marriage.

Basically you can wear any color you want in any style you want. Your choice will be affected by several factors like:

1. If you eloped the first time, maybe you are still dreaming about that fairytale dress and would like to wear that now

2. Perhaps your first wedding was your dream wedding and you would like to be a bit more subtle this time

3. Even if you had your perfect gown the first time, there’s no reason why you cannot have it again

The choice is entirely yours and heaven knows there are so many designs to choose from. You know your body type and what will suit you or not. Does it go with your personality and do you feel comfortable in it? You are wiser and more mature now and your taste probably changed from when you got married the first time anyway.

Here are some ideas as to which direction you may want to go:

A stylish brocade suit in any color

A sexy cocktail dress

A floor length elegant sheath dress

Or that designer number you love and looks great on you but does not justify the cost. Well now you have the perfect opportunity to buy it without feeling guilty!

You can certainly go to town with all the wedding dresses available for second marriages. Have fun and enjoy the selection process. After all it does not happen all that often that one gets a chance to play with second wedding gowns!

Second Wedding Ideas That Include Children

June 11, 2009 by Francina · Leave a Comment 

Many people are finding love a second time and are searching for second wedding ideas that include children from previous marriages. The children will most likely be a part of your new married life and it will make them feel special and valued if they are included in some way in the preparations and/or the ceremony and reception.

The thought of you getting married again may be a very unsettling idea to any child. They may feel like they have to take second place and how you handle the situation will to a large extent determine the bond of the family after the wedding. Including children in either the ceremony or the reception is a small token that can really go a long way to pave the way for a happy marriage.

Apart from the regular ways to include children in weddings like inviting them to be a ring bearer, flower girl, best man or maid of honor depending on their age, here are a few different ideas of including children in your second wedding:

As you can see there are several second wedding ideas that include children. You have to decide which will work for your wedding and which will suit different children’s personalities.

Etiquette And Ideas For Planning A Second Wedding Ceremony

June 8, 2009 by Francina · Leave a Comment 

One of the first choices you will have to make if you are planning your second wedding will be if you want a traditional, religious or civil ceremony. There are many ideas and etiquette for second weddings nowadays and any of these will be acceptable.

Although the person conducting the ceremony will play an important role in putting the ceremony together you will be able to put your own personal spin on it. Perhaps you do not want a traditional wedding but want to make a few subtle changes. It is often refreshing to change things a bit. It will keep your guests interested and prevent them from becoming bored.

Remember that this is only a guide. You can mix things up and add your personal touch. It is your wedding and you certainly do not have to repeat what has been done before. Collect etiquette and ideas for second weddings from different sources to provide more options.

Ideas And Etiquette For Planning A Second Wedding: Invitations

June 3, 2009 by Francina · Leave a Comment 

You are getting a second chance to plan a wedding that suits your relationship, personalities and style. Make sure you gather ideas and information about the etiquette for planning a second wedding. This post will cover the details of the invitations.

Firstly you have to decide who will be invited to the wedding. Of course you can invite anybody you want but the deciding factor will probably be your budget.

I would advise against inviting ex-spouses or former out-laws (just kidding!) even if you are on good terms. Because of your previous ties they may get melancholy and make other guests uncomfortable which may spoil your special day.

Etiquette for announcing a second wedding is pretty much the same as for the first. It is commonly done by the couple nowadays but the parents can make the announcement if they wish.

The norm is to use heavy card stock for formal weddings, verbal invitations for informal events and any of an enormous array of invitations for semi-formal occasions. The same etiquette applies to second weddings.

You can find samples of wording for second wedding invitations hosted by the couple at http://www.idotaketwo.com/invitation_1.html

or if it is hosted by the parents at http://www.idotaketwo.com/invitation_2.html

and if it is hosted by the couple’s children at http://www.idotaketwo.com/invitation_3.html.

Even if you do not want gifts please do not say that on the invitation. This implies that you were expecting gifts. This is not considered correct etiquette but you can convey the message by word of mouth or by mentioning it on your wedding website if you have one. These can be created easily and is a great way to share your whole happy story with others.

As you can see there definitely are differences between the etiquette for planning the first and second weddings.

Ideas For Planning A Second Wedding: Announcing The Engagement

June 1, 2009 by Francina · Leave a Comment 

There are certain subtle differences between the etiquette and ideas for the second wedding compared to the first wedding. This post is the second in a series on planning a second wedding. The first was about announcing your marriage to all children, grandparents and ex-partners involved.

Although this is generally the rule with a first marriage, the parents will probably not be hosting the second engagement party but you may have some friends and family who would like to do it.

It is not etiquette for the couple to be hosting an engagement party but you can have a party and then announce that you are engaged. There is a difference and this will not be a gift-giving event.

Gift registry is quite acceptable for a second marriage. Even though you may not need a lot for your household, many people will feel like celebrating with you by giving you something and they would appreciate the guidance.

The upcoming wedding should be a celebration of your love for each other. Your family and true friends will be happy for you and will certainly be delighted to help you discover new ideas and the correct etiquette for planning your second wedding.

Planning A Second Wedding

May 29, 2009 by Francina · Leave a Comment 

If you are busy planning a second wedding you are indeed a lucky person to have found a person to love a second time. We all know how hard it can be to find a mate, not to mention doing it twice!

As with any wedding there will be a lot of planning. It doesn’t matter if you’re doing a small private wedding or a big one for everybody you know, there will still be a lot of details to take care of. If you or your partner has children from you previous marriages, the very first step to take will be to announce to children on both sides about your decision.

This can be a tricky situation and should be handled with care. Children can easily feel threatened when joining a household with other kids they may not even know or know very well. They need to be assured of their place and importance in the new family.

It may be a good idea to ask favorite grandparents or even the exes to help with the announcement if the child or children are close to them and trusts them. The way you handle breaking this news will determine with what attitude children enter the new set-up and if they will be willing to cooperate.

Girls at wedding

Honesty goes a long way and you should build your new relationship on that. Children are very perceptive and will certainly know if you’re not being up front with them. So don’t beat about the bush.

This should still be a very joyous occasion to celebrate your love for each other. Including the children in the details will help them feel part of all the happenings and should smooth the way for you to really enjoy planning a second wedding. Stay tuned since this post will be the first of several on second wedding planning.

Whole family in wedding

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